Wellness Wednesday: Accepting the Reality You’re Living
You might be in a situation where it’s hard to accept the reality that you’re living. Many times when we’re grieving, we tend to bargain with ourselves and with reality, either by trying to change people or by making excuses for people who have a repeated pattern of behavior. We may try to justify peoples’ actions to help us avoid continued pain and disappointment.
Lauren English, a licensed professional counselor and business development representative with Pinnacle Pointe Hospital, warns us about the consequences of not accepting our realities.
When we try to convince ourselves that a situation is really not that bad, we’re creating false hope. English promotes hope, but when we’re living in a reality where we refuse to accept how people are, we’re bargaining with ourselves, and that’s unhealthy.
Acceptance of what is true and recognizing what’s in your control are two of the most powerful skills and tools that we’ll ever learn. We can’t continue making excuses and exposing ourselves to suffering — we have to accept our reality so that we can better navigate it.