Wellness Wednesday: How to Communicate Your Feelings
Do you know how to communicate your feelings when you’re in an argument? For the most part, we usually get caught up in the moment and blurt out some things, and leave the argument feeling hurt or misunderstood.
Lauren English, a licensed professional counselor and business development representative with Pinnacle Pointe Hospital, offers some advice for when things get heated, and some phrases you can say instead.
Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, we might say, “You always do this!”
English says that instead, try saying, “I feel like this has happened before, and I’m feeling frustrated because we keep coming back to this,” or, “Why do you think we’re talking about this again?”
Another phrase that we might go to during an argument is, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t say this or do this.”
Instead of making the other purpose the source of your emotions, flip your statement to talk about you, instead of them. Try saying “I feel hurt,” or, “I don’t feel loved when you say/do this, and I don’t want to be treated this way.”
Hopefully, these tips will help you to communicate fully and honestly, and resolve any conflicts efficiently.