Wellness Wednesday: How to Set Boundaries, Respectfully
It can be hard to set boundaries, especially if we have “people pleasing” tendencies, or if we don’t like confrontation. But for this week’s segment of Wellness Wednesday, Lauren English, a licensed professional counselor and business development representative with Pinnacle Pointe Hospital, shares a few key phrases that politely and respectfully set boundaries in order to live a happier and more stress-free life.
“It’s okay to disagree with me, but I expect you to treat me with respect.”
In our society, we have to remember that not everyone is going to think exactly like us, but everyone still has to be treated with respect. This phrase lets people know that you won’t tolerate disrespect in the future.
“This is not a topic that I want to discuss right now, and I hope that’s alright with you.”
If you feel like the discussion is not solving anything, or is leading to an uncomfortable situation, you can acknowledge that the conversation is not beneficial. This lets the other person know that you don’t want to talk about it, and you hope that’s alright with them.
“Please do not speak to me in that tone.”
This phrase is for when a conversation or discussion gets heated, and tones are on the verge of disrespectful. This conversation is no longer productive, and has the potential to cause damage.
“Thank you for the invite, but I won’t be able to make it this time.”
With the current climate during the pandemic, a lot of people still feel uncomfortable going out in public. This phrase is for when you’re invited to something and either you can’t go, you’re uncomfortable going, or you really don’t want to go, and allows for polite refusal.
With these phrases, you will be able to set comfortable boundaries for yourself, all while being respectful.